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Page 179: Need. Needed. Needy

/ Thursday, October 11, 2012 /

She: sometimes I think a girl that act dumb, needy, when actually she’s smart and independent, is kinda use her brain to attract man. They know that most men still have this perspective that men have to be superior to women, even the smart ones. They use it as a weapon, a particular strategy so those men will feel that these girls need them. Mmm…most of men prefer needy and spoiled women. Well, we know that they usually do. I think that’s why we think that it is hard to find a boyfriend. While actually, for them, independent and smart women like you and me…

Me: hahahaha. Independent and smart?

She: wait! We are. Independent and smart women like us, are pretty hard to handle. Because we have this image, that we don’t need them. Not as much as those act-dumb-needy girls.

This is not a sexist writing and I am not intending to make it vaguely looks like that, but somehow I agree with my friend on “most men need a needy woman, even the smart ones”. I knew it because I saw evidences (and experienced it). Other friend said that it’s not a shocker, because sometimes it is nice to be needed; to get the feeling that somebody rely on you, ask you like you’re on the same level of intelligence with Tesla, craving for your advice like you’re one of the wisest people on earth, etc. And by being needed by needy person, it’s like exaggerating the number of how important is you for this person.

And maybe, yeah, it’s an “effective” strategy to win a man, but somehow I think, “Bollocks! I refuse to act dumb, or needy”. If I don’t know about something, or really need help, I’ll ask. But I won’t pretend if I actually can handle it by myself just to get attentions. It’s not only condescending, but also degrading every woman. Degrading men too, because that kind of attitude make them look like needy and megalomaniac creatures that measure their existence from women who whining asking for their help for every unnecessary thing.

Maybe, at the end, it’s about self-content and territory.


8 comments:

{ Pria Kabut } on: October 11, 2012 at 7:50 PM said...

Blog yang bagus, tulisan-tulisan yang menarik :)

Membuat saya berpikir beberapa hal :D

http://priakabut.blogspot.com/

{ hertiana dwi putri } on: October 11, 2012 at 8:06 PM said...

@priakabut: terima kasih :)

{ Lia Hambali } on: October 14, 2012 at 10:14 PM said...

Actually, I'm pretty sure there's still a lot of men out there looking for so called independent smart women, who would ask you out on a date and happily let you pay your own restaurant bill or movie ticket or cab fare :p

{ hertiana dwi putri } on: October 15, 2012 at 10:44 AM said...

and happily let you pay your own restaurant bill or movie ticket or cab fare :p << actually, i want him to pay all the bill... *materialistis anaknya :))

{ Lia Hambali } on: October 18, 2012 at 1:11 PM said...

aku puuuunn..ahahahah *plakk

{ hertiana dwi putri } on: October 18, 2012 at 1:41 PM said...

@lia: dan semoga itu tidak membuat dia membanting pintu teksyong. haahahahahahaha

{ Ditttsss } on: November 14, 2012 at 1:12 AM said...

Never in my life I would happily degrade my life to dependency. Stick your head up girl, you'll find guys who adore you as a smart girl who can take care of yourself. Then both of you can partner up abut never let him know that you can't live without him.

Terus kenapa gw masih single aja ya. Kapan double albumnya nih.

{ hertiana dwi putri } on: November 15, 2012 at 4:14 PM said...

Then both of you can partner up abut never let him know that you can't live without him. << awh, sweeeeeeet :)

"Terus kenapa gw masih single aja ya. Kapan double albumnya nih." << karena cowo kerennya blm nongol neng... a cool woman like you will find a cool man also. hehe

 
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